What Women Want When They Test Men: How to Decode Female Behavior, Pass a Woman's Tests, and Attract Women Through Authenticity

This is a great book. It is a very easy book to read without any sugar coating on top. From start to finish, things are laid out in a very easy and understandable format with chapters and sub-categories. This book was very informative and gave me a great new perspectives on the different tests that men get all the time. But after reading it, I completely understand these tests and know that most of them are subconscious. When you are reading though it, you will smile and laugh as you can totally relate what is in the book to your own personal experiences.I HIGHLY recommend this book and I have already purchased some others by the same Author that I look forward to reading!

I've only been married for less than two years, a newbie, and I realize now that I was the husband trying to please his wife in whatever way I could/can. After reading this book, I could point my finger at my wife for this insecurity or that anxiety or whatever...bottom line, if I'm not fulfilling my role as a man by following my principles (good principles), then I'm not being the leader she wants to follow.While I was reading this book, my wife and I had an argument and she started raising her voice and got mad. I told her, "I'm done. I'm not going to talk to you while you're like this. We'll talk about this later." She got even more upset and the more she yelled the more I became quieter and said, "No." She stormed off yelling and shut the bedroom door and locked it. I walked to the door and at that point I remember that Bruce said something about, paraphrasing, "don't chase them when they're like that." So I stopped and walked away and started laughing on the inside. I may have partially failed that but I stayed cool and calm like Bruce said. I can't wait to do that again even better next time. : )I came away from reading Bruce's book, in moments like these and in all tests that women and LIFE throws at us men, "embrace rejection and enjoy the conflict," forgive/let go, love her for who she is, keep abiding by your good principles, welcome solitude (don't share or tell her everything...talk to God and or your solid friends or mentor), and keep working on yourself to become a better man, the man God intended you to be and your wife and people around you will respect you. Many wise men have said, "I would rather be respected than liked."

There is good info on the instinctual reactions and tests that some women may do. Even better is the information on having your own integrity and congruency.What I would caution is that a lot of the behavior of women described in this book can easily be attributed to a narcissistic personality or high anxiety people. That isn’t necessarily bad in and of itself, but a covert narcissist can be really draining and upend your life. As the author points out, you need to realize your limits and boundaries and recognize when your partner’s bad behavior is abusive and toxic and not due to just insecurity.Watch out for the narcissists and other borderline personalities, covert or otherwise.

What the author says makes good sense: women can, and do, test men. After reading the first couple of chapters, a lot of interactions that I had had with women -- interactions which I was wont to label as "irrational" -- started making perfect sense to me. The epiphany was awesome. A woman *will* continue to test you, and this is not restricted to the courtship stage; it will happen throughout one's life and -- though the frequency of these tests may go down -- test she will!As men, the mistake we often make is that we try to understand women using the same frame of reference that we use for judging other men and that's a recipe for disaster. The point is, this trait to test men is "burnt" in to women: that is how they have been created by the Maker. An analog to this idea would be the way we respond in a certain way when we see a beautiful woman: your reaction in such a situation is not something that you need to consciously learn, it is an automatic response to an attractive stimulus. And that's the whole point that the author tries to put across to the reader: the very fact that she is testing you implies that she has an interest in you; she wouldn't do that if she weren't.Men and women are different in their traits, and this is what makes our lives on this planet so much more fun, if were only to embrace these differences rather than fight them. My only regret is that I did not have access to a book like this when I was in my twenties. I can only look back now with regret and wonder about all the lost opportunities with women when, what I assumed to be a confrontation or even an attempt to put me off, were actually signs of her interest in me. The fact is, she wouldn't have been testing me if she weren't interested in me in the first place.

Why aren’t men taught about the basic reasons that women do the things they do? Pretty much all american men who I know (including me) were left clueless as boys in regards to the basic needs that most females typically have. There are a lot of generalizations in this book and I’m sure there are loads of women who don’t fit the archetype that the author focuses on, but the fact of the matter is that the lion’s share of females exhibit at least some, if not all, of the behaviors herein. I highly recommend this book and find the basic tenants of the text useful: (A) be a man of purpose and authenticity who doesn’t let other people shake you from your principles, and (B) be aware that most women are seeking a safe place to be and they need to constantly evaluate the level of safety/security that they possess in their lives and with their spouse, boyfriend, or male associate(s) through a multitude of tests. If you can hold onto these concepts, you will find much more peace and much less frustration and confusion in your life! Thanks, Bruce!

A book written by men for men just the way we like it, straight to the point with no "BS make you feel good statements" for those who don't fit the mold of a man quite yet, you're either what women want or need to work on yourself to become such man, and if you're able to accept the harsh truth and work on yourself, this book I'll do wonders for you by putting you back on control of not just your interactions with women but in life in general. Thanks Bruce! You've open my eyes.

Book is full of nonsense based on nothing

Very insightful, tests are categorized, examples given, strong focus on self-development and how to keep a good and sane head on your shoulders.

This book was amazing! It wasn’t just about passing the tests but about how to be a better man! I learned a lot from this book! I recently am divorced (not my choice) from a 9 year marriage and am ready to finally start getting back into the dating scene and I have learned so much about what I can improve myself on it’s crazy! I recommend this book to anyone married or dating or single. The biggest thing I took from this, you have to believe in yourself and figure out what you want and stick to it. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can someone else? Why would someone else? That’s the “nice guy” attitude which I have been very much guilty of most of my life. No more!

This was a much needed book for me. I would keep reading my girlfriend's emotions towards my behavior completely wrong, and I would easily get triggered. I maintained a steady pace, read 1 chapter a day, absorbed it's contents, really reflected on what was written, and lived the advice. It turns out, Bruce is right, and the words in this book has made my relationship a lot more fun and, my girlfriend and I are a lot more connected. Must read for every man who aims to be in a happy and peaceful relationship.