Dear Daughter of a Narcissisitic Mother: 100 Letters to Help you Recover and Thrive

I'm getting a lot from this book (and also her first book), having been brought up by what I'm convinced is a mother with NPD. All my life I knew something was wrong, and it's taken me 55 years to figure out what it was. When I started researching different situations I had been in with my mother, wondering if anyone else had ever experienced anything similar, I was amazed to find many communities of women online who had gone through almost the exact same things -- it's really kind of bizarre, and quite sad. But since it's what we grew up with, and all we knew, it took a long time to realize not everyone had the same challenges with their mother, and it's difficult to put your finger on what the problem is. Thank you to Danu Morrigan for her kind, honest, and encouraging words. It means a lot to me, and I'm sure many other women.

Love this book, each page gives incredibly helpful information on the experience of being mothered by a narcissist. That is an incredibly painful experience and usually not shared with anyone since the narcissist surrounds themselves with yes folks that all due their bidding. So while you are being mothered by criticism and abuse (verbal), you have no one to turn to. This book rips the mask off that experience and tells the truth of what happened to you and gives very powerful ways in which to heal. Wish I would have had this information fifty years ago, but thank goodness it is available now. It is life changing. With this book, you can finally create a happy life and shine the spotlight on who you truly are, rather than constantly mirroring the narcissist.

This book references specific conversations and events that happened within my family that no one would believe. It's really eye opening and "comforting" so to speak to know that others have experienced this level of manipulation as well. Every conversation with a narcissist has to be unemotional and shallow unless you want your feelings hurt. It's constantly playing a game and coaching yourself as you speak to them so you won't wind up emotionally charged or hurt. Often, I felt there was something wrong with me because after all our conversations, I was left emotionally charged and very hurt and sometimes didn't understand why. This book tells why.

One of my favorite things about this book is it’s format. It’s a series of short (2-3 page) letters. I have a hectic schedule right now, and don’t have the time to read a book that requires a big time commitment. I can read a letter or 2 a day and continue on my journey of healing. I have had so many “me too!” moments reading this book. It has brought me a lot of comfort and great suggestions.

Answered a lot of my questionsClarified my life….Made me feel less crazy!

although I did not order this book intentionally. I love this book. I cannot put it down. I describes MY mom to a T.controlling, mean, rude, vindictive, played favorites with my siblings etc.. and the plus side is shes a celtic pagan like me.. didnt know that till i got the book and found her website. great book & really valuable insite on how to deal with the narcissist ..

This book has helped me so much. It has opened my eyes to the life and relationship I want to have with my mother, if it is possible. That is what I will be working toward. Thank you so much, Dani!

I loved Danu's first book and this a great follow-up. I find it helpful to read a couple of these a day because you don't get support from society about having a mom with a personality disorder. Danu's books are the most comforting, supportive, and helpful of the many that I have read on the subject.

I’ve searched for answers and understanding my whole life. This book, with short chapters, clarified a lot of my relationship with my mother. This is life-changing - but also is hard to realise everything we’ve gone through as DONMs.

Fab book

it hits the essence

Fabulous! A milestone in my recovery! Clear, warm hearted, strikingly sensical and funny. Thank you 🙏

This book helped save me from terrible narcissists.I'm a guy, narcissism is in the family and in my friends.Thank God my friend diagnosed the situation and turned me on to Danu.Must read material. Saved me so much time and suffering. And I've suffered a lot from these people.