Come As You Are Paperback – 1 Jan. 2015

This book took me on quite a journey. I read it because I felt broken, I felt like what I was experiencing was my fault. That I should want sex more.By the end of the book I learned so much more than what I was expecting and decided to write a letter to my husband explaining the secret ingredient - me, knowing, understanding and respecting me. We then talked about our accelerators and brakes and responsive and spontaneous desire. I explained how the media, cultural and medical messages have trained my brain to respond in some very specific ways to things he has said.We discussed the things I had learned about myself and he simply said... Well that all makes sense and smiled. This book has given me the tools to communicate with my husband in a way I never thought I'd have the confidence to do.Thank you, whenever I hear someone talking about feeling broken or struggling with thier sexuality or relationships I will recommend this book.

Every women and I would say every man in the world would benefit from this book.As a psychologist I wanted to give this book to each one of my clients.Brilliant job.

A phenomenal book that is relevant to SO much more beyond only sex.Deserves to be in schools - for women AND men.

I have really enjoyed reading this book. It felt broader than sex advice. More like advice for life generally. Excellent!

This makes some aspects of sex research seem so obvious. The best of them do. I listened along, thinking: "oh yeah!" and "why didn't I see it that way before?"I've already recommended this to a couple of friends (one single, one in a loving relationship), both of whom I think will find it interesting as men to consider from a new perspective.This is an updated version of a previously released book about desire, normality in sex and in how the brain and sex organs interact in our experiences of pleasure. Having only listened to the updated version, I cannot comment on the updates, but did find it inclusive of those outside of binary categories of gender, and also aware of its shortcomings in terms of research.It's absolutely fascinating. And certainly made me ponder my own history, current position, future wants and attitudes. There are a lot of simple quotable lines that Nagoski refers to regularly, she reassures and explains the range of normality we all encompass. She manages to explain how a lot of problems many readers experience have arisen. And uses examples of 'women' in relationships (composites of a number she has worked with) to exemplify a few key 'types' that demonstrate various points she makes.While I've never felt other than existing somewhere along the range of 'normal', this did tick a few boxes and hit a nerve several times when I recognised behaviours, situations and experiences that fit me. Listening to explanations did clear a few things up and make me look at myself and my own body and desires with clearer vision and certainly a lot more kindness, not to mention confidence to express myself.One for women to read to get to know themselves. One for men to read to get to know the women around them and how they can both differ and communicate those differences, then work to find common ground.This does not become overly scientific or technical, but does use terminology. Loved the Too Long: Didn't Read (TL: DR) at the end of each chapter, great summaries that did remind me of key points.The book translates perfectly to audiobook format, and with the addition of the attached pdf (accessible through the Audible menu on the app), gives plenty of material for mulling over, for testing yourself and to return to for future consideration. The author makes an expressive and empathic narrator, and covers her material passionately. It was easy to keep up with her, and she communicates with verve.This has already inspired me a little, in seeing myself, my mind and body in a slightly different way. And appreciating how it all got where it is. ​With thanks to Nudge Books for providing a sample Audible copy.

This book is EVERYTHING! A must-read for every woman!I had issues with hormonal contraceptives (the pill & implant) a couple of years ago and I think my reaction to reading this book can be best summed up in this message I sent to my friend, quoting what I said to my boyfriend: “I’ve honestly felt a bit broken since all the contraceptives messed me up, turns out I’m completely normal, just in a different way than before.”Thank you Emily Nagoski for helping me to finally get to this point after 2 years of struggling!

Like many others I bought this off the back of the sex education reference by Maeve. I have to say it was boring, repetitive and overall disappointing.I wonder if the author paid for the reference or is in the know with the show writers?The fictional book by Dr Jean Milburn in sex education is a book I'd love to read!

I got two-and-a-half hours through the audiobook and found I was drifting off quite often. I'm a straight man, and it takes a lot to make us get that bored in a book about female sexuality. It's like distracting a - well, I can't actually think of any living thing that has a similarly one-track mind. Woodpeckers maybe. You get the picture. Anyway - the book seems to have three points:1. Everything is normal2. Women's desire has 'accelerators'3. Women's desire has 'brakes'.The author seems very proud of the latter two insights and as far as I could tell, the book seems to consist of supporting anecdotes. Hour after hour of them.The book seems to have been cobbled together from conversations with chums and her notes for her lectures, which her students must love, because she has a nice voice and with actual points spread so thinly, they're unlikely to get writer's cramp.Nevertheless I would still recommend this book for buying for husbands/boyfriends to help them come to terms with women being so darn complicated.

Me cambió la visión sobre la sexualidad. Emily Nagoski es como la amiga experta que todos necesitamos, explicando la ciencia del placer de forma clara y accesible, sea cual sea tu educación sexual y creencias culturales. Es un libro que te abraza y te dice: "eres perfecta tal como eres". Una lectura que empodera y educa, y que debería haber leído de adolescente.

This book is a powerful reflection on the damage a patriarchal society does to women's well-being and provides a pathway out. Emily Nagoski's work should be part of every sex ed class for both sexes to start to change the stereotypes. Buy this for your sons and daughters, mothers, sisters, brothers, aunts but maybe not creepy uncle randy, just cut that dude loose.

Dieses Buch ist allumfassend und toll geschrieben, lebenswichtige Informationen für Mädchen und Frauen

A very useful guide, no matter if you are 12 years old or 82! I wish I red it sooner.

This book is life changing and gave me a lot of relief. I basically tell every person I met about the ideas in this book. Can’t recommend it enough.