Everyone Loves Sex: So Why Wait?: A Discussion in Sexual Faithfulness Paperback – April 11, 2017

In “Everyone Loves Sex: So Why Wait?,” Bryan Sands explores psychological and sociological research and comes up with strong reasons in response to all of the questions implied by the book’s title. The research is supported and illustrated by anecdotes compiled by Mr. Sands in his role as a university chaplain and readers might be surprised by the stories that students and others have shared with him.The primary points of the book are (1) that being sexually faithful to one’s spouse is the best way to have a fulfilling relationship and the best sex possible and (2) that, for those of us who have been unfaithful or had other relationship issues, it is not too late to start. Mr. Sands avoids judgmental criticisms of unfulfilling sexual activity and successfully puts the concept of waiting in a positive context.Mr. Sands also emphasizes a secondary point: that human trafficking, particularly sex trafficking, is a serious problem about which people need to be more sensitive and should do more to stop.Abortion is not a major focus of the book, but Mr. Sands includes some powerful examples of women who had abortions that were bad experiences. The experiences cited showed women who conceived while they were in bad relationships, so these experiences were more an argument for deferring sex until marriage than strict pro-life arguments.It is also interesting that a book about sex from a Christian perspective in the 21st century has nothing to say about homosexuality, but this omission seems entirely appropriate. Any discussion of homosexuality would distract from the theme of the book.This book is very well-written, but it is possible that Mr. Sands is an even better speaker than he is a writer. Most readers will also enjoy his website, EveryoneLovesSex.org.Mr. Sands also shows how the concepts of “freedom” and “community” are such significant parts of living fulfilled lives and having meaningful relationships. Although the book uses current research extensively, it also uses relevant Biblical teachings to show that sex is a precious, but powerful, gift from God. When readers consider sex in this context, they may wonder why sex wasn’t one of the three temptations of Christ described in the Gospels of Matthew and Luke. This book does not deal with that question, but perhaps the answer is that sex is more complicated than food, power and testing God.

Finally a Christian book on sex for youth that is practical and real and doesn't just talk about abstinence. The message of abstinence has failed the youth of this country and others. Sands message of remaining sexually faithful to your current or future spouse backed of Biblical truths, statistics, and science are far more effective. I love the way he uses real stories from teenagers as examples to the chapters and God's redemption in each one, showing that it is never too late. Also, an essential message for teens to hear.One of the chapters that stuck out most to me in this book is 'Sex Sells! But Should It?' which addresses the pornography epidemic and human trafficking. It is clear of Sands passion on these issues but also presents us with tons of facts about the correlation between the two challenges. I think it is essential for students to realize that engaging in practices involving porn are not just harmful to themselves, but also to recognize that it IS hurting others. Maybe this realization is what stops the behavior?My husband and I work with youth and have a nonprofit in Kenya battling the adolescent pregnancy epidemic. We spend a lot of time researching materials and information available that we feel will be helpful for our prevention curriculum. Everybody Love Sex: So Why Wait? will be one of the resources that we use and recommend to others. Even though we often teach in a much different culture, teenagers are very much the same everywhere, and truth translates. Thank you.

Bryan has articulated well the idea of why sex should be experienced only in marriage as God intended. I wish I had been given this insight early in my youth to keep me from my many failings as I went through my 20's and 30's. It was well into my 40's that God finally got my attention and I started living for Him. As Brian stated, God loves and cares about every human being, no matter what they have done or had done to them, and wants to redeem them back into the relationship that He created them for...with Him first and then with others, especially our spouse. Thanks for tackling a tough but needed subject. My prayer is that this book will reach as many as possible to give them hope and healing and marital joy.

I wasn’t sure about the title or concept at first—but as I read the book—I noticed a gracious, well-researched book about this polarizing topic.The first part brought academic, peer-reviewed research to a popular level and the second part of the book painted a picture of hope and redemption. After reading this book, I can see the person of faith and even the one without faith being encouraged.I highly recommended this book. It’s an easy read, and will encouraged anyone, regardless of the situation you’re in. This book did not condemned me but gave me a lot to process.

This is a good book for anyone to read, whether Christina or not (and I am a Christian). Interesting, entertaining, educational, enlightening and a relatively easy read. As an older, married person I initially thought I don't need to read such a book, but I was wrong. Young or old can benefit for different reasons, as this book will reinforce the message that we all need a relationship with Jesus.