How To Get A Man Without Getting Played: 29 Dating Secrets to Catch Mr. Right, Set Your Standards, and Eliminate Time Wasters (Smart Dating Books for Women) Paperback – 9 May 2017

Read the book and appreciated all the good advice. It gave me a new perspective on dating and the feminine way of going through it. Will read the other books as well.

Finally a book that called things by their name! Very practical and full of good advices regarding dating. I am new to dating world so I am looking forward to practice these new dating behaviours

It was a good read and insightful. I think it can be helpful to most women out there who struggle with dating.

Dating world is a minefield nowdays, especially for women who want a committed relationship and a family one day. Now, this book is full of generalisations but if you take them as principles rather than rules I think they can help you understand how your behaviour is perceived by men and what are some golden rules when it comes to first month or two of dating. Bottom line, know what you want, have rules for your own behaviour, let the guy lead so you stop confusing men or attracting ones that will disrespect you, play games with you and ultimately can't or won't give you what you want. This book can save you a lot of time and emotional energy. It did so for me and I'd recommend it. I'd also recommend every woman out there to stick to her dating standards and to honour her own needs and wants even if it looks like there's no one around that's suitable or right for her. The right guy will come along and you will feel a hell lot better and your heart and body will be in a much healthier place if you wait for him and say no to the rest. Trust me, it is worth to wait. Good luck

Lovely read and informative. I am well clued up now

This book taught me so much I was hooked, I am the nice girl as described in the book and a lot of the tips I am going to apply!

Just finished this and glad to say the warning signals I picked up saved me from feeling used today with my integrity still in tact, although I knew what I might have done would be wrong, reading this made the alarm bells louder in my gut instinct. The dumped text came this morning, he wasn't that into me he just wanted my precious.

This is a very good, informative book about the way a man's mind works. I found it difficult to fully comprehend how women can or should change in order to please a man. Looks like I have to change who I am? Can that be done, no I don't think so. I'm not sure. Still sad to know that men like women opposite to who I am. Not really sure if this will work for really loving nice women. Maybe if your hard hearted it'll work. Not for me though.

I liked the whole book. Easy to read and no nonsense advice.

I wholeheartedly agree with this book.I am a man. I am also a huge fan of Bruce Bryans’ writing. Since May 2013, I have read nine of his books, (including several written for women). His writing resonates deeply within my soul of not only the kind of man I aim to be, but also the kind of woman my soul desires. I get to experience the great relationship he advocates.My motivation for reading this book was to look for areas in my own my life that may undermine my own efforts to make my own woman’s heart feel safe, secure and drenched with love. I highly recommend this book.With that in mind (and although lengthy), I would like to offer my thoughts about the book. You’ll find I share just about everyone of his insights.INTRODUCTIONI recognize that as a man, I set the tone for the quality of the relationship by the way I carry myself. When I don’t find the right kind of woman, I am tempted to settle for less. I don’t want that either. And although it may feel like we are rare and hard to find, truth is, we are here, and when I meet a woman who poses Poise, Feminine Grace, Self-Respect and Playfulness — I absolutely want to win her for life.Chapter 1: How to Date a Man and get His Love and Respect 1. Standards, hers and mine, communicate that the quality of the relationship matters and makes creating the inseparable emotional bond so much easier.2. As much as I like the idea of winner her easily, neither do I want the relationship to be rushed. When I find a high-quality woman, I love her response not only when I step up to plate but also allowing time to let those feelings simmer as they become the glue for a strong emotional bond.3. The only time I want to be on her Facebook is when she posts the main picture of me holding her, letting the world know that we are each others.4. If I asked her out, I am paying (the masculine need to provide and protect). Allow yourself to relax and enjoy our time together. Nothing makes me happier than seeing her smile.5. Just not acceptable. Last minute dates are for plutonic friends, not someone I am highly interested in. Does last minute date make you feel special? Isn’t anticipation part of the fun?6. Exactly. Her safety and comfort will always my highest priority — both her body and her heart.7. Completely agree. In the short run you get to see how he handles the situation (character, temperament). In the long run this guy may not be a dependable or disciplined that makes your heart feel safe, secure and loved.8. ABSOLUTELY: This is the kind of woman I crave. A high-quality woman can influence a man without words. As Bryans writes in Attract the Right Girl: “When a graceful woman enters the room, we simply know. She doesn’t need to say anything or even reveal her presence with words. Her very essence is magnetic. She communicates with her body language in a way that says that she is comfortable with her sexuality, and that she expects to be appreciated and adored. She appreciates the fact that she is the fairer of the sexes, and she lives passionately. . . The graceful woman wants freedom from masculine responsibilities and masculine expectations. She desires freedom to display her emotions as they come to her, and the freedom to express her sexuality in her own unique way with modesty and enthusiasm.9. Unfortunately, in the past, when I was emotionally interested in a woman who I know was not right for me, I also felt like a selfish fraud. I wasn’t authentic and felt more a needy boy than a man. Furthermore, even PUAs (Pick Up Artists), even those who promote being an authentic and being respectful guy, acknowledge that he can get a women to do anything as long as her emotions are triggered and her thinking brain distracted, not exactly authentic or respectful.Chapter 2: Power Dating Strategies for Finding Mr. Right10. Even if there is a handful of women I might be interested in at the time, when I meet this kind of woman that possesses this quality, I immediately become disinterested in the rest and will step up for her.11. Agree. Independence without responsiveness communicate, intentionally or not, that you are not interested. Your responsiveness is the fuel that makes our engines rev.12. Protect your heart for a man who will really treasure it.13. You do this, and you will have both love and respect from a high-quality man. You will make him feel special, and have someone he will never give up.14. Solid advice for men also.15. I could never imagine myself ever asking a woman on a date through a text. If seeing her is hit or miss, then I will call. Ask her out in person — secure enough to be vulnerable for the possibility of rejection.16. Same for a high-quality man who will care enough to be patient. David Richo in Daring to Trust: “Wise adults begin relationships not with the romance phase but an investigation phase. We see if they are trustworthy . . . and possess qualities that are important to us.”17. Dignity and Respect comes from being real, authentic. Women who communicate with respect are respected and make me feel respected. He is absolutely correct about the middle paragraph on page 61. Which one will you be?18. The longer you waste your time on a dead relationship, the later it will be to find a quality man who does have what you’re looking for. Furthermore, hanging on actually makes you look desperate and less attractive.Chapter 3: The Beliefs and Standards of High-Value WomenThis advice is about self-respect which is so fundamental for a healthy, vibrant relationship. It is also the same advice he advocates for men with women.19. Excellent Advice. Although more difficult, done this way, it not only shows respect for the man, but also for your own heart.20. Flakiness is a sign of immaturity and disrespect. Allowing it is a sign of desperation and self-disrespect. Not attractive whether you are a man or woman.21. I can’t comprehend why any man who truly wants to be a high quality woman would not make every effort to be on time. Isn’t his dependability part of the foundation for trust?22. This one came as a surprise but after reflection I realized that when a woman opens up and trusts me with her soft side, I feel trusted which opens the door for me to share my softer side creating moments of emotional connection we both desire.23. Dead-end relationships are already dead even before it officially dies. The more you hang on, the longer it will take for your heart to find what it truly desires.24. Even though men are to be leaders, we will often lead to the level you allow us. Don’t settle for less if your heart actually desires more. You deserve what you want.25. The amount of quality women I began to attract skyrocketed after reading and implementing Bruce Bryans advice for men. It feels great to have options.Chapter 4: How to Capture His Heart and Bring Out His Best26. Not sure I totally agree. However, if you give too much, he will become lazy. I love when a woman indicators of interest are clear. It shows confidence and someone I would enjoy bing around (I personally absolutely love playfulness in a woman). But Bryans is completely correct when he wrote: “In the beginning stages, men are more likely to respond to you on deep, primal level if you are warm, friendly, easy-to-please, kind, deferential to his leadership, and even hesitant to commit.”27. Femininity Wins. It’s the polarity between the masculine and feminine that makes our love stories magical.28. Yes. A high-quality man recognizes the difference between turning down a request from rejecting him. It’s invigorating for us to take initiative and lead, but also hearing “no” also allows us to show the tender side of consideration. And when the “no” becomes a “yes,” the feeling inside is something indescribable. She becomes even more precious to me.29. Absolutely Agree. Now were talking about Magic. May very well be my favorite chapter.Final ThoughtsA high-quality woman is our heart. Although we men may accomplish great things in life, it’s having someone by our side who supports us and shares in our ambitions that makes it so rewarding. Whatever we accomplish, no matter how significant it’s impact on others, it still feels somewhat empty without an invested, high-quality woman by our side.

Great read. Very insightful as a single woman. Good quality tips. Not brash or slutty in the presentation or representations made. Thank you

I was pleasantly surprised at how well the book was laid out and how direct the information is. Whether you’re a young lady new to the dating world, or a woman of a certain age going back on the scene after a divorce or loss, this book is a necessary read for the modern dating world, especially if you’re looking for a long term relationship. Unfortunately there are too many guys in the modern dating world with less than honorable intentions (another notch on the bedpost, the allegedly “separated” guy who’s just looking for a side chick, and the worst one of all, the guy looking for a sugar mama to take care of him financially), and this book educates the lady on how to weed these guys out and get the guy looking for a long term relationship.

Eady read. Lots of great points for the independent, no good male role models to learn from when growing up type of women. Many of us never saw appropriate behaviour and therefore do not graciously demand that from our men. Time to ask them to step up or step out.