Come as You Are: the bestselling guide to the new science that will transform your sex life

One of the most difficult things for men to understand is the female mind.. Especially her sexual mind.. There are no clues and usually she just doesn't talk about it because she doesn't know about it. Ahe feels it but doesn't know what it is. This book attempts to provide a logical reasoning and explanation about the female sexual mind... Well written with plenty of examples and a few exercises. It will definitely help your sex life

It is a must read for people in general, cisgender women in particular. I will pass this book as a precious gift to our next generation as well as our previous one. I came to know about this book from an Anna Akana YouTube video. And I'm so grateful for that.

One of those books you wished you had read half a life ago ...

A book every female should read. It will help you understand your body and sexuality better.

I read this book online and impressed by it but the book i received was of poor quality and I could not keep it. Felt like a pirated copy. I returned it the moment it delivered to my place.

Ce livre offre une vision nouvelle sur le sexe, que ce soit dans notre rapport personnel à celui-ci ou avec son partenaire. Il remet à jour nos idées datées sans que nous en ayons eu conscience jusqu'à la lecture de ces lignes. Il y a certes cette idée de "all body is beautiful" qui n'est pas très français comme manière de penser mais c'est juste pour renforcer l'idée d'une normalité dans la diversité, à nous de l'accepter en partant de ce constat. Bref, un livre très nouveau et sympathique qui me permet d'elargir ma connaissance sexuelle.

Fantastic book. Well worth a read. Such knowledge packed in and shared in such am easy to understand narrative.

If you read only one book on human sexuality, make it Come as You Are. This isn't your standard sex book. There are no promises here that learning one trick will drive you or your lover wild. But there is a lot of science, presented in an approachable manner, that provides great insight into how people work sexually (and, to be honest, in general as well). The book's stated audience is women, but I think anyone can benefit from the science that Nagoski covers in her book, regardless of sex. Sure, if you are a guy you'll read some things that don't directly apply to you, but I recommend you read this book anyway. It is that important. Why? Because what this book teaches you is immently important to your health, your sexual well being, and just general understanding of how you, and those you are intimate with, work. For instance, Nagoski's discussion of the dual control model, or the "brakes" and "accelerator" of arousal, provides an understanding of people can have a different level of arousal for similar events. Nagoski also talks about how stress impacts your arousability, and how stress can affect level of arousal differently for people (some people more aroused, others much less). She discusses how stress worked in the past for humans (when running from lions, for instance), and how we no longer allow stress ourselves to complete the full stress cycle. This discussion of how we, as a society, don't allow stress to complete the cycle is important, regardless of how it affects your sex life. I thought her point of how our method of dealing with stress is to avoid stressors, when it would be much healthier to learn to allow the stress cycle to complete, spot-on and more sensible than the common advice to avoid stress. One important item the book covers is genital nonconcordance, or how the brain and genitals can react two very different ways to the same stimulus at the same instant. I'd argue that it is important not only for couples to understand that, but individuals, both men and women, and for society at large. Why? Because we have this assumption that the genitals are the best, or the only way, to determine if someone is turned on, and it has dangerous repercussions in our society. I'd love to point to any particular section and say that it is the most important section. But I can't. Nagoski has provided a whole book full of facts, research, and understanding that makes it impossible to say any one part is more important. The whole book is important. I doubt you'll get through the book without wondering, "why haven't I learned this before?" Why haven't I learned this before? Because no one told us. But Ms. Nagoski has, in an very approachable, and very readable book. Please, consider purchasing it, and highlighting it. Mark it up and dog-ear it. I honestly think that this book is that important to your, your health, and that of our society at large.

Interesting understandings

È scritto davvero benissimo, ne vale la pena. Lo farei leggere a chiunque sia o abbia relazioni con una donna. Inoltre molti concetti di estendono anche a situazioni che vanno ben oltre la sola sfera della sessualità. Scorrevole, interessante e mai banale o noioso, ma allo stesso tempo istruttivo e "Eye opening"