Hardcore Grief Recovery: An Honest Guide to Getting through Grief without the Condolences, Sympathy, and Other BS (F*ck Death; Healing Mental Health Journal for Adults After the Loss of a Loved One)

I just lost someone very close to me a week and a half ago. I've found this book to be so much more helpful than anything else I've read. It's blunt, not sugar-coated, and makes me feel okay that I'm sad, angry, and that hearing that my loved one is so much better off doesn't help anything right now. I know they are and am glad the suffering is over but I'm glad to feel validated that I'm deeply mourning my loss. I've ordered the workbook that should arrive soon because I like this book so much.

Unfortunately, I've faced grief more times than I would like to and through each I've taken my time to grieve at my own pace. My best friend from high school lost his mom very suddenly and in thinking of how to best give him a hopeful leg up in his grieving process that I cannot fully understand, I came across this book. He and I used to creatively write a lot in high school and figured this would be the best way I could "help".He mentioned he really likes it. I think this is a thoughtful, truthful way to give condolences to your loved one when words are not enough and knowing that only time and their grieving process will help make things better.

I got this for my sister-in-law as a Christmas gift, yes it sounds dark but not really. I lost my honey back in May, to murder. His killer has not been found and local police have not helped. We’ve spent this past year investigating ourselves because our city is turning slummy, finally got attention that he needed for thorough investigation. I have gotten close to her more than ever. He used to think we would never get along…lol. She says I’m hurting a lot more than she is, but I think it’s the other way around and maybe one of us has the coping skills that the other doesn’t and therefore we rely on one another…but we cry together, laugh together and share our pain. She’s my family and he would be so proud to see the bond. It helps having someone there but, I’ve realized the pain in each of us is different, even though we loved the same person. He was her baby brother and I was his baby so the intensity of our loss individually and our perspectives are different. Somedays I’m mad at the world because I don’t get to be with who I wanted to be with in life and there are days she’s angry with herself, because wasn’t there to protect her baby brother…I am the baby sister with multiple older brothers. In our Native American culture death can be taboo and outcasts families at times. Murder has made it harder to accept his death. No one talks about what happened to him, there’s not support system for us and murder is not as common as death. Everyone seems so disassociate because it’s easier to pretend nothing happened than to find answers. Murder is intensifies death x10 and adds extra steps to the grieving process it is very difficult to accept because it’s not a natural part of life, and it makes death a taboo. So this Christmas I’m creating a self care basket for her with this book, a gratitude journal, self care vanity sets and anything distressing for her to be selfish when being alone should be comforting and not painful. Reading the back of this book feels like the inner you becoming a 3rd person potty mouthed best friend. We all use that inner voice in other occasions why not use it for getting ourselves through the hardest of times. It’s a “your toughest love approach”, to yourself. why have I not heard of this book before? I hope to get myself a book too, I thought I ordered 2 copies. So If therapy didn’t work (it didn’t work for me either…), and it feels like no one can understand your pain and you are hurting, buy this. I have faith in this book, it speaks my language….straight f**** forward!

A simple book, not hard to read at all. Felt like it really helped me through some of the really bad phases of grief, I found it comforting to read

Honestly this book helped soo much, especially before bed. Highly recommend this book to the grieving. I’m not sure how I would of survived after the death of my only sister. Soo young leaving two kids behind. But this book definitely helped me on nights or days I was spiraling.

I bought this book for my daughter and her partner after they lost their premie baby. This book was actually the only one they could actually read. It dealt with the issues they were going thru in a way they could relate to.

I absolutely love this book. My husband passed away 3 months ago. This book has helped me understand my emotions and realize that they're completely normal. I cry every time I read it, but in a good way. I highly suggest this book for anyone who is going through a loss.

Very helpful getting through those first awful weeks and months.