Why Good Kids Act Cruel: The Hidden Truth about the Pre-Teen Years Paperback – January 1, 2010

The book was just as the seller described.

I've been a teacher and education consultant for over half a century. No problem more perplexes school counselors than informing functional, concerned parents that their son or daughter engages in bullying behaviors. Most assume bullying to indicate family dysfunction. Pickhardt's newest book knocks this notion into a cocked hat. Other works deal with bullying in schools, but nothing I've encountered comes close to presenting crucial understandings and insights in so focused, usable a fashion. Every school in the nation should have a supply on hand so that any counselor can simply quietly hand a copy to a parent who needs to be aware of what constitutes often shocking and disturbing information to them. Every school should include at least one in-service a year built around this book.David Weiner, Austin, Texas

I've been frustrated by the most anti-bullying education that is out there. It seems like the main message has been "don't do that". The main problem, as this book explains, is *bullying works*. Bullying solves problems. And kids are going to continue to do it as long as the problems it's fixing remain! Telling them how to recognize it and not do it only goes so far. We have to help kids actually fix the problems they have (e.g., lack of success) with real solutions (e.g., actual achievement).This book also expounds upon all the many ways bullying shows up both in boys and girls which was very interesting.

My 7th grader was struggling with bullying in school and this book has made a world of difference. It clearly identifies the difference between harmless behavior and harmful, and provides simple, straight forward directions on how to resolve issues, both with your child and how to address teachers and the school. This book helps parents, teachers, and administration get into the minds of bullies and the bullied.A must read for all parents, teachers and school staff.

It is an absolute excellent book for not only gaining an understanding of the dark social dynamics early adolescents go by but also gaining an insight of the negative political dynamics we all deal with to a certain extent.

This book gives a fantastic insight into the reasons behind the way that teenagers behave. A must-read for parents and teachers alike.

Gave great insight to some difficulty my daughter has been having with 2 pre teen children

My kids were having some issues at school. This book helped deal with some of the issues we were experiencing.