Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Kindle Edition

Extreme feminist agenda. Not nearly enough practical help in coping with burnout, but rather a prolonged rant about the disadvantaged state of women. I am a woman, I am not disadvantaged. I am busy and was expecting a book that gave strategies for dealing with normal, everyday stress (which both men and women experience!) in a healthy way. Instead, a small part of the book discussed coping strategies, while most of the book was devoted to describing how unfair the cultural system is.

This book is special and important. It's the kind of book you want to give to everyone you know because you know it will make their lives a better place. From understanding the importance of completing the stress cycle, to facing down "Human Giver Syndrome" to making friends with the madwoman we all have in our attic, the Nagoski sisters break down some serious research and make it easy to understand and apply. Please do yourself a favor and read this book immediately.

The themes described in this book are issues that frequently come up in my work as a therapist. I was blown away at the ease in which the authors explained difficult concepts regarding stress cycles, body image issues, the patriarchy, self-compassion and many others that took me years of graduate school to understand. I love their perspective regarding "Human Giver Syndrome" and other issues pertaining to women. This book was fun, easy to read, and is an absolute "must-have" in my collection. I have recommended it to numerous clients.

This book is everything. I've recommended it to every woman I've come across in my daily life that I think might benefit from reading it (translation: every woman I've come across in my daily life). I read it in under a week because it was really enjoyable and I made the time to do so (I was disappointed when it ended!!). I've reread it a second time and keep it on my desk as a constant reference and reminder of the topics addressed.The writing is approachable, fun, and relatable. They make the science-y bits easily digestible, the philosophy bits graspable, and the patriarchy (ugh) bits smashable. The topics covered are so universal for women in the 21st century that you really feel like they get it; it's so nice to have your suspicions about some of your interpersonal interactions and society as a whole validated.This was my first experience of "self-help" book, and I loved it so much that I have read everything else Emily Nagoski has written (Come as You Are is a game changer and her fiction under the pen name Emily Foster is really great). Can't recommend this book enough to anyone and everyone. It should be required reading for all women entering the workforce or any higher education; and honestly they should make it a requisite for girls to read before receiving their high school diploma or GED equivalency. Start 'em young so they can spot this stuff along the way and learn to deal with their stress before addressing their stressors!

I loved the pop culture references, which added a depth and commonality of them. Pop culture is a product of its times, and our times are, as the euphemism goes, "interesting." The use of pop culture to help figure out our responses is a brilliant short cut. BURNOUT taught me so many helpful things, vivid metaphors that should stick in my mind for when the stress is high and my mind is casting about for a place to ground itself. Although many Star Trek references abound, so do others. So very Darmok and Jalad at Tenagra.

I learned a lot about myself and my stress, and finally an understandable way to manage it. This book is realistic and relatable and I know I'll read it multiple times.

This is the most incredible book I have picked up in years. It is written in such an easy, familiar, casual approachable, understandable way, and yet I have cried at least four different times already feeling so recognized and understood. I want to buy it for every woman I know. Get yourself this book, give yourself a little time to sit down with it, and you will understand. I am freaking blown away.The authors really lay out how our feelings, our bodies, and our minds work together and how conditioned we are to shut ourselves down in ways that slowly exhaust us.... Just get yourself this book. It's incredible.

This is an incredible groundbreaking book, for everyone (if the non-women can get past it being written for women). The first two chapters alone are worth the price of the book, just for all the information on how stress and stressors work in our bodies and how to help our bodies heal. Highly recommended.

Fantastic book with great advice on how to end the stress/trauma cycle and prioritise self care BUT I didn’t enjoy the one-sided perspective. As other reviewers have said, the contents could apply to men just as much to women. But instead the authors blame the patriarchy for the existence of the stress cycle. They mention the statistics of suicide attempts being 3* higher for women, but completely omit the fact that men are 2-4* more likely to complete suicide.All genders have social ‘issues’ and complexities, but I am increasingly concerned with the socially-accepted emotional suppression for men. I felt like this book reinforced that. The authors seemed to imply that men’s problems can be summed up as wanting six pack abs or to last longer in sex. Thanks for contributing to the idea that men can’t have real problems.Now I am a cisgender woman, ie born female and identify as female, and I also identify as a feminist. AND yet I am so fed up of the male-bashing fest. Can we please see the ‘patriarchy’ as an outdated system (ok yep originally designed by rich white men) as something that doesn’t benefit many women OR men OR ANYONE these days? And can we please stop blaming each other for all of our woes.So yes, great contents in theory, but I didn’t appreciate the blame game or the authors giving yet another other reason why men are always at fault.

I would have given this book 5 stars, except Emily and Amelia are only talking to half the population. Yes many women have had life and choices (or lack of choices) and experienced hardship more then man over the year. Things are getting better but are not perfect yet, but as the ladies says everyone's experience is different and a whole gender should not be judged by the few or the worst examples of it.I disagree with the premise that woman are naturally more giving it nicer then men. Let's use the body shaming example in this book, notice it was the women doing this to other woman. This happens a lot to boys straight from primary school, I have 3 boys and every day atleast one of them have come back to tell me a mean thing the girls said to them about their appearance or even background.The shame of all this gender biased book is if that was taken out I would agree with 90% of the research and ideas in this book. The practical ideas would work just as well for either gender. However I think many men might be put off reading it after the introduction. I would quite Bruce Lee and say"Take what is useful, and disregard what is not"The reason being many of the ideas are very effective.This is a great book of busting through the silent kill that is stress, if it was not so gender biased I would have no problem giving it 5 stars. I would say if you are going to put a book out to just half the population put it in the title before people buy the book.

Utterly banal and derivative, poorly written, tedious long winded metaphors that are both confused and confusing! It seems like the authors want to communicate in a down to earth, even colloquial style, but this is all over the place, the quality of the research is lost in the poverty of the writing! As a former academic and now life coach of some 10 years I will concede I have read widely on this subject, however I am always interested in looking at the science and theory in new ways and learning new strategies to support myself and clients in the face of burnout. Sadly this book contributes absolutely nothing, its ultimately badly written with absolutely nothing new to say, unless you count making up new phrases for old well known concepts “human givers” anyone 🙄. For a moment I thought I was being a bit harsh until I just read a paragraph breaking down and explaining the concept of trust!!! So patronising its unbelievable, I wonder if they have any idea who their audience is? I am very, very surprised to read the odd good review, I can only imagine this field of self development is new to those readers and they are surprised and entertained by its style, perhaps it’s aimed at the young adult market for those who may one day become burnt out! I actually read some sentences out to my 19 year old son and we were laughing out loud at how poorly written and repetitive it is. From the content and marketing of this book I have seen elsewhere, I would assume the main target market is the fully adult female with some life experiences and time to get frazzled and burnt out under her belt, generally this market has already learnt/read a bit about this subject to and there is nothing new or of value in approach that this book can add. What this books wanted to achieve is beyond me. Really really dissatisfying and disappointing. The authors need to stick to conducting and whatever else their day jobs are!! I have to say it is probably the most badly written book I have ever read, and that really is saying something having read thousands of books in my lifetime! Avoid avoid avoid.

This was recommended to me by a fellow Project Manager (who has significantly more experience than me) and while I try to steer clear of self help books, I purchased it based on my respect for her. Boy was I glad!! This book is a fascinating read. It is a perfect blend of science and 'banter'! This mix, along with the authors' using their own real life experiences, makes this book highly accessible and I felt like the authors were chatting directly with me.Grab a coffee, a comfy quiet spot in the house, snuggle up and enjoy!!

Self help books can be many things that may disappoint - they may fail to build a convincing case,can lack practical solutions, can be patronising, or can assume aspects of the reader's identity that may not be the case.This book, for me,does none of the above. Well written and compelling, I have never read a more practical, emotionally-literate book. I am considering buying several more copies to give to several friends.Great.