No Contact : How to Beat the Narcissist Kindle Edition

I was reading this book in the midst of a grand hoover. HG is brilliant and everything was spot on and I was able to maintain no contact and feel incredibly free & now have the tools to aid me in my commitment to healing. Thank you HG. Reading this is probably giving me years on my lifespan as the stress of being with a narcissist is removed.

If you are dating or married to a Narcissist or have escaped one, READ THESE BOOKS!!! They will help with your cognitive dissonance immensely!The techniques, tactics and thoughts described in these books could have been written personally by my ex. The similarities are uncanny, but very eye opening. I no longer go back and forth between whether he had a good side and a bad side, he was ALL BAD and I never knew him at all. He never cared about me or anyone and will never change. He is a stranger and will always be a stranger. I was in a rage at one point when I REALLY understood what had happened to me and how it was all just a big game to watch me react. I know that ignoring him is still the best thing I can do and not reacting to him at all is how I win in the end. I have created a steel fortress around me, so he cannot get into contact and I've been no contact for quite some time now. But these books helped me heal even more and I'm so glad I stumbled upon them. Everything H G describes in the aftermath of leaving a Narc is dead on, including what happens with his worshipers and you. It's crazy. Read these books to help you understand what you were(are) really dealing with, that there truly are horrible people in this world with zero good in them and learn from your mistakes. While this experience was terrible to endure, I have come out of it a much stronger and wiser person. I am no longer naive and overly trusting. I know my worth and will never tolerate such behavior from anyone again and my BS meter is on point! I can smell a narc a million miles away now! Thanks HG!

I wrote a page and deleted it darnit so i'll attempt to be concise. I applaud your courage to write and finish books but more importantly for exposing your struggle with mental illness. The insidious yet clever way you coped with pain and unmet needs as a child saved you then but wreaks havoc now. Claiming to be a master of illusions and making one see what actually doesn't exist as they believed is halfway accurate. NPD's easily pull the right strings (There is not much MacGyver "can do" or CIA strategy nor a need to master a highly developed pretense ) to elicit reactions they loath in their partners because they've actually mastered deluding themselves. Like watching in a mirror as their emotional abuse creates what they project onto others because those qualities; such as, fear of abandonment, neediness, anger etc.; are intolerable for the Narc and unloveable so the mirrored traits are deeply needed to not only devalue the victim but to regain false superiority. Its one type of dysfunction handed down in families, sucking the life out of sufferers and it's costing Billions in all our fragmented systems and abuse or trauma is related to many disease processes. Whether readers or you agree; crediting the Narc with ninja powers, engineering emotions, abilities to meld love into addiction and taking credit for the placement of some powerful mixture is undeserved. broken people find broken people as do hurt people, hurt people. Its too deceiving to overlook the real seeds and trauma. You can't own one bit of the covert emotional abuse I suffered nor the drunken physical assaults planted long ago. Nor can you assume my certain empathic traits woven with mental illness are any less self-serving than you are. You are right about certain twisted needs for the cycle but, again those seeds and familiar patterns were rooted in childhood/family abuse patterns we unknowingly recreate upon meeting a similar fractured person, who re-establishes the cognitive dissonance by wining and dining with the inauthentic cheerful character (lack of identity is utterly painful) who love bombs then belittles, mocks, lies and undermines others already weakened soul. I see the inability to self-reflect and expose the truth.but I do understand why the ability may be foreign. Also, I realize the focus was on No Contact Strategy but I sensed undertones of apathy or overlooked knowledge about the critical state of mental health in this country and domestic violence which still downplays violence against women. Empathy is unnecessary to report facts and effects on people who struggle to just get up. Get honest...personality disorders suck and you know it

No Contact is the only way to protect yourself and beat the narcissist at his/her own game. University educated experts have absolutely no idea what they are truly dealing with when it comes to disordered personalities. After reading HG Tudor's books, you will learn how to detect NPD/ASPD behavior better than any Harvard educated psychiatrist or psychologist.HG helped me escape my narcissist and establish No Contact/Low Contact with my Ex, family and "friends" who were narcissists. His book explains why you need to go No Contact and the appropriate methods to do so. There are 18 Power Plays that a narcissist will deploy to get you to break NC. Recently, my Ex-Narc deployed The White Knight Power Play by depositing money into my checking account.Here are several Power Plays that you can read about in No Contact:1. Promise to Change2. Arranging accommodation for you, say at a hotel or a rented property3. Organizing child minding4. Arranging transport for you5. Attending to administrative matters on your behalf6. False SuicideI have read five other authors/books about NPD and not one of them mentioned going No Contact. Freedom from NPD abuse is guaranteed through House Tudor!

It will give you the creeps. It's not written like your usual sterile clinical psychology book. It's written almost like fiction...but it's a horror story for sure. The purpose is to get into the perpetrator's head...as well as the victim's. You will very clearly see the patterns of thought and behavior on both sides. No statistics, no boring anonymous interviews or case studies. This writer understands that he is dealing with PEOPLE, not NUMBERS. He paints a very vivid picture of the problem and if you've been through it, you will know it's true and it makes your skin crawl. It will open your eyes to mistakes you may or may not have made, and gives you a very plain, in-your-face understanding of what action has to be taken and why. Genius. I wish I'd had this book a long time ago. Everybody needs to read this!

The author is a narcissist himself! Narcissists are well known for their manipulativeness. This book is no exception, from its very title onward. "How to beat the narcissist" is hardly what the author had in mind - he explains the tactics narcissists use but constantly reminds the reader how difficult it is, almost impossible, to maintain no contact. I wouldn't be surprised he secretly rubs his hands at each purchased copy, having found yet another twisted way to get attention.I'd rather recommend a book from someone who has been a narcissist's victim like Shahida Arabi's "Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare". And keep no contact with Mr. Tudor by NOT reading his books.

Although I've never been the partner of anybody with any kind of NPD, I've been in two situations in my past with two men who I strongly suspect to have been toxic narcissists. One was the partner of an ex friend. The other a colleague. Because I was pretty much only on acquaintance terms with both, I got off lightly in my problem experiences with them compared to partners who have had intimate relationships with abusive people with NPD/severely suffered from their mistreatment.However, I still found it very useful to learn how to properly implement no contact (by avoiding certain errors), in the event I should meet somebody else similar in future (in some context) when I might unexpectedly need to use it.I also found that, regarding my observations of how the first man treated my friend of the time/certain ways he would treat me/how often she would leave him (only to go back to him at a later point) it strongly came over to me that much of what's covered on certain power play/pity manipulation approaches is accurate. I also found it useful/interesting to learn of types I didn't know about before.As with the book "Smeared" I thought a better editing job could have been done. But, overall, I found this a helpful/informative book to read/learn from.

I wished I had read this book before I decided to go no contact with my ex narcissist husband of 19years being together. I made the stupid mistake of going no contact with this man thinking he would change. Well he refused, basically I lost my teenage sons whom he deployed to abuse me, all my friends, money, and had to move two hours drive away with my youngest son. It has been 3years of hell and he does not stop with the abusive text messages or uses my teenage sons to send them instead, even though he is remarried.To top it all off learning about narcissism I have found out both my parents are narcissists.I would encourage people to read this book, so the above never happens to anybody, and you can get prepared.HG Tudor, is shockingly honest. Don’t know if I like it or not, some of the read made me want to slap HG for sure.However, it is the truth and this book could safe lives.

To read about No contact from the perspective of a narcissist is really interesting and allows survivors to gain a much needed insight. I have to admit at times it was hard reading as a brutal account of just how far they will go. Now I know this I can utilise it!

I rarely write reviews but I felt compelled to for this book! I have lived through everything written here, had the thoughts mentioned and every move played on me by my ex husband, down to every last detail. I recognised that he was a narcissist through the counselling that I required after he left me (for his PA) but this book is spookily accurate-bravo! I definitely will continue my NC approach, especially after reading this!