Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away: Real Help for Desperate Hearts in Difficult Marriages Kindle Edition

Maybe it's my fault for not reading further into the reviews before buying this book, but it's effectively about encouraging the reader to stay in an abusive, toxic relationship. Heavily religious, too. HARD PASS. BAD ADVICE.

Literally gave me the hope to fight for my marriage & fight for self healing, this book is very insightful about real life struggles that end up hurting us & our marriages, it all starts with you, if you work on you & your issues, you will begin to find personal healing which in turn, leads to healing within the marriage, if you DONT work on YOU FIRST or THINK ITS ALL YOUR SPOUSES/PARTNERS FAULT, your marriage will stay the same or get worse & fail.It's a great read to read by yourself, or as a couple or even in a small group. I highly recommend this book.

While I write this, the most popular review and most helpful review is by somebody who says that this book is encouraging the reader to stay in an abusive, toxic relationship. It also says that it is heavily religious. Both of these statements are exaggerations.First, as you can see from one of the photos, Dr Chapman says quite clearly that he is not so naive to suggest that divorce can be eliminated from the human landscape. He just believes that it should be the last possible alternative. Everybody should make a big effort to reconcile differences. He believes that far too many couples have opted for divorce too soon and a too great of a price. But he is not saying that you should stay in abusive relationship no matter what. However, I would agree that he is heavily in favor of reconciliation.Second, while he is religious and does bring it up occasionally, it is certainly not super religious. I'm an atheist. And his mentioning of religion every now and then did not irritate me.I took a photo of the table of contents. I hope it is helpful at seeing how the book is organized.The only thing that did bother me about the book is that he really pushes hard for getting a counselor. Nearly all his stories involve a counselor, and he definitely promotes that. This is understandable, given that he is a counselor and probably has an army of them who work for him. I would have liked to see a bit more practical advice for each of the problems that he mentions.Still, at the end of every chapter, he does have a section called for further help. In it, he gives books and other resources to help you delve deeper into the topic, perhaps avoiding a counselor if you can't afford one.

As my hubby and I had read Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages and it was helpful to us, when I saw this book I couldn't resist. He writes a very thorough book about a husband and wife facing this dreaded condition. He gives suggestions on how to lovingly handle many of the irritating, annoying, not so nice and some dreaded situations that may be a problem between a husband and wife , by using examples of couples that have gone through these situations and how they handled it. And also gave his opinion on things that were done lovingly by the spouse who chooses to be the caretaker, or how it could've ended in a kinder, more loving, less detrimental way. I would recommend this book to ALL couples facing this disease that no one wants, and for all couples who wish to end the marriage on a better note v.s. exhaustion and relief ,when the affected spouse that has this diagnoses, finally passes.

The facts are true but so many times we feel that certain things won't happen to us because we are Christian's, "we are saved and above certain temptations " but let's remember that we are humans and are still tempted by the enemy of our souls. Marriage is under attack.

It's pretty real and advice I can follow. Some real problems are dealt with and I wish more could read this before they start talking the D word.

The Author's approach is the same as his previous work, approach the situation with Love, but this time it's Tough Love. He goes through each destructive situation and gives solid advice on how to approach with tough love in a safe environment and where a councilor is needed. Each chapter comes with a reference for where to seek help. He also admits that some marriages will end in divorce after trying everything because you can not change your spouse, you can only influence them to change themselves.

Wow.. Every married couple should read this.and very practical applications to help you with your marriage. I'm going away how great it was. Going to take what he taught and help change my marriage

The content is very interesting and gives a positive focus if or when difficulties arise. I have been aware of this concept for decades but it slips from my awareness and then I need reminding again. It is so true what Gary writes about.

An insightful interesting read