The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman

Practical, informative and easy to read guide to understanding your woman better and taking responsibility self, all while letting go of the need to evaluate yourself based on other peoples opinions. When my woman points out my blind spots I get reactive and defensive. This book provides an insight into the emotion behind her complaints along with an understanding of the anxiety that arises within me as a result of this perceive threat. Instead of responding from a wounded and triggered place, that never ends well, GS outlines a framework for me to step up, create safety and lead the relationship back to connection. Highly recommend

Now, this is the most practical book I have read so far on being a man in relationship with a woman.Some key points which really stand out for me are; first of all, Youngblood’s contention that this relationship business is not a zero sums game.One of the things that drew me from the get go are the words in the subtitle ‘A Blueprint for inspiring the trust, love and devotion of a strong woman’. The words; ‘of a strong woman’ are resonant with me because I count myself privileged to be married to a woman who embodies this definition.This does not intimidate me, ‘I also am a strong man’, on the contrary the strength and resilience in my woman both attracts and inspires me.But, I guess and this is the rub, I am not immune to the vicissitudes and vagaries of relational complexity. Heck, I’ve been married 25 years, been with my woman since I was 17, raised 4 children, escaped a cult, lost my religion, made money, lost money. Experienced failure and setback, picked myself up again – and again, yes, and again.And when life is real, as I know it is for you too, if your honest and your embracing the journey with a view to try and achieve some sense of success from this game of life before you throw in the towel, you need real answers. So books like GS Youngblood’s ‘The Masculine in Relationship’ are a tremendous asset to add to your arsenal in the fight for your ‘best life now’.GS set’s out three things which he breaks down in a clear and concise insightful manner throughout this book that can make a huge difference in your interaction with the woman in your world. They are to learn to ‘respond as opposed to react’, – ‘to provide structure’ and – ‘too create safety’.The capacity for this is within reach for any man with a predominant masculine energy. However, it is not what we have been taught by society. In fact, masculine energy has been labelled toxic in some quarters and many masculine men, myself included have been unable to see that our ‘masculinity had any particular validity’.This has resulted in many men of my generation and beyond feeling really, like a spare part in our relationships and families. We may be more human doings than beings, be shouldering immense amounts of pressure and responsibility, but ultimately feel irrelevant in the lives of those most near and dear. This is not a good feeling people, it breeds a tremendous sense of hopelessness and pointlessness, and in and of itself could potentially be a trigger to toxic responses.GS Youngblood’s work therefore wades into this maelstrom with the direction that many of us have been waiting for.On finishing this book, I remember waking up terrified, (you know a books good when it gets you like that). Suddenly aware of my failure, the years of submitting to my ‘assigned’ place as the family spare part. Suddenly I recognised the gift of my masculinity and the asset that it is. I recall picking it off the shelf, blowing the dust of that old thing and re-examining it in a new light. ‘Ah, yes structure, remember when I used to provide structure. Oh, chivalry, lets once more begin to work the neglected muscle of creating safety. (Thank you Mr Youngblood) you reminded me of the gift of masculinity that I have neglected to share with my woman and the world for so long.

Great read. Eye opening about why we do the things we do in our relationships. It is a book that is far more than just pointing out what we do wrong but gives the advice and tools on how to do different and ultimate make our relationships better. Hear the pain not the blame has become my new mantra. Thanks GS

This book provides a good structure on how to be "a man" in a relationship. While it provides specific things to do.... it is not a "5 things to do to get your wife to like you again" type article. It encourages a man to look within and get grounded with his masculinity. Highly recommend if you are married to a strong woman and feel you have lost your mojo.

Life changing. It’s as simple as that.Any man who wants to understand why women behave they do AND discover why we behave the way we do.