So, What's Your Proposal?: Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds!

I will preface my review by saying I am a supporter of Bill Eddy and the High Conflict Institute's work. They provide ongoing, practical, easy-to-implement approaches to problem solving situations and challenging individuals.This book was one I wanted to have because you can never have enough approaches in interactions with resistant or aggressive people, with people who might have attack-dog personalities and behaviors.What I like is the how the book talks about brain science in a simple manner, then shows how you can redirect difficult people out of the negative, progress-inhibiting emotions and behavior into problem solving, encouraging their input, ideas and autonomy, which can lead to collaboration.So, what's your proposal is not some overly simplistic, impractical, and theory based. It's quite the opposite.In business or your personal life, it can be applied.The book reads easy, quick and makes you think.You will be happy with your return on investment (purchase price). I'm ready to start applying the thinking and techniques to become more effective and help highly emotional people learn new ways to help themselves solve their problems.

A simply depicted, academic and anecdotal explanation of how to handle high conflict individuals or discussions. The author helps readers shift conversations from blame, to problem solving with or without a mediator. It is useful for contentious divorces, or benign squabbles that may fall off he rails. This quick read can arm you with the tools you need to stay above the drama and put it in order at the same time. Loved this one!

An effective book that provides practical advice accompanied by compelling and realistic examples. The author, a seasoned therapist turned attorney-mediator, lends credible insight to the dynamics behind high conflict situations. While the book is geared towards conflict resolution professionals, it will likely prove helpful to anyone who has ever or will ever encounter a high conflict personality, which is to say everyone. I just ordered another of Bill Eddy's books. I trust it will prove equally worthwhile.

Great tool for mediators!

This approach to high conflict people is simple, direct and easy to implement in any relationship whether professional or in friendships. One does not need to have a PH.D. in order to have healthy communications and avoid the pitfalls of being in contact with high conflict individuals. Great and easy read.

You will learn a lot by reading this book. Bill Eddy is the expert!

Though I was reading this mainly to deal with co-parenting challenges, I found the other examples useful and helped to point out that many HCP (high conflict people) can be relatively high functioning.

Simple, effective & easy to understand: a must read for anyone working in challenging work places or dealing with high conflict individuals.

Bill Eddy is a writer, a lawyer and a therapist. Who could be more qualified to speak to this topic ? He has written books, has a website and has courses made up that help you these issues....some of which are recognized in American and Canadian Courts. His books are well written and seem to always lead to buying more (thank you to the author).

Love the book. It gives your real ideas on have to handle High-Conflict and people how are stuck in positions. Very helpful and easy to read. Great and simply advice.

So powerful, this concept. I bought one for my sister when I bought mine. Today I am ordering 2 more each, to give to our kids. Helpful in the workplace, relationships and dealing with the public. ❤️❤️

Easy to read and implement.