Power And Control: Why Charming Men Can Make Dangerous Lovers

This book explains how the insidious nature of an abuser, allows them to get inside your head. The book confirms everything you may have already experienced. It is highly detailed and while it focuses on male to female abuse, offering many examples of the nature of abuse, which will help you to realise it is NOT YOU! , it acknowledges that female to female abuse and male to male abuse in domestic relationships is equally valid. It offers a way out and suggestions for help. It is a definitely enlightening read and offers you hope to reach the end of the abuse, keeping yourself safe. It is a must to read, if you are in an abusive relationship or wonder if you are, or if you are studying to become a counselor. It helps you gain some control back by helping you to understand just what is going on and steps to stop it. It isn't an easy road, but definitely worth it, if you are sick of the abusive and feel you are trapped. Lets you get inside the mind and trick playing of an abuser. Very well worth reading. Not to be read in one sitting. You need to read and absorb the information, then you may see just how deeply inside an abusive relationship you are. Sometimes you can't see how deep you are in, until it is highlighted to you. But there is a lot of help out there. This book will help you through it all.

Only half way through at the moment, but what a book. A real eye opener about the subject of domestic violence and abuse, its effects on victims and approach by society and the law.I bought it for research on my novel about a dv victim - everything I’ve “made up” and thought might be implausible has actually happened to the women who share their stories in this book; that’s far more terrifying than any fiction thriller.If you can’t understand “why women stay...” or why they don’t just go to the police, then READ THIS BOOK! It’s certainly enlightened me.It’s not just for women- it’s for everyone. We should all read this and become more educated on the problem that is largely taboo and in the shadows.The book is informative and educational. It is easy to read with chapters dealing with different elements of the subject, and real life accounts given as examples to demonstrate and explain. I’ve been dipping in and out as well as reading chronologically - it can be read either way. It’s helping me understand things more and appreciate the impossible and difficult situation domestic abuse victims can be in.Everyone and anyone should read this.

A collection of real life stories of women who have been in awful abusive relationships. Raises awareness and also could help women or men in similar circumstances.

I was married for 24 years to a narcissistic sociopath, I had no idea what a narcissist was until 2008, I read everything I could get my hands on to prepare myself for divorcing him, this book has been well read, pages marked, some passages underlined and my comments in the margins, also a post it note on the cover for certain more immediate re-readings. I had to understand what I was married to, how to deal with the fall out, how to get through the divorce process - which took 2 years as he wouldn't agree to anything I requested - he said I demanded stuff. As I continue on my journey of recovery, this book and others that I bought are referred to often just to reinforce the reason why I had to divorce him. To the outside world he is the most charming man, Dr Jekyll personified, people we knew as a couple think I have lost the plot because he is "so lovely, so charming, how could I do that to him" because they only see his "good" side, if anyone has any niggles, doubts, something you can't put your finger on that there is something wrong/missing/not quite right in your relationship then READ THIS BOOK, if it doesn't tick some of the boxes and give you a "lightbulb" moment that you are not crazy, then all you have done is spend some money on a book.But for some people this could mean the difference between life and death and for some people it may be that serious.My ex tried to stop the divorce by turning up at court on the day the decree nisi was granted, he tried blackmail, threats, insults - but my mind was made up. I have been so much happier since we split up. This book was just one of my lifelines during the entire divorce process.

A book that every woman should read. Sensible and edifying. The last section on the 'way forward' should be used as a poltical blueprint for action.....

Best book i have read re: abuse. amazing how all of these men are charmers (outside the home). There are usually no red flags Pre: The longest and sickest journey of your life (church to say i do) They have many degrees esp in LYING. They are beyond deceitful. They will break your bones and yet deny they had anything to do with it. They (ofcourse) can read x-rays (but not radiologists) They know everything about everything and God is not neccessary in their lives because they are God. They will inform you how far you would have gone ( if your education was only like theirs) The only trouble is your education is as good as the one they received.They control money and everything around them. They have rarely been hit by a life threatening illness nor received any violence in return for their outbursts. Their background has no violence (seen).I suggest Linda Ronstat,s cd... I NEVER WILL MARRY I WILL BE NO man,s WIFE.m,. If it is not to late for you . BUY THE BOOK.Mgt Belfast N.Ireland

Essential reading for anyone who wonders if they are in an abusive relationship. An abusive relationship is not only about physical abuse. Mental and emotional abuse can also be terrifying. By the time I read this book, I had thankfully already escaped from my ex who ticked all the boxes - it was shocking to see that there is a recognised process by which a charming partner gradually takes control of your life until you are in a state of terror. A charming man is not always what he appears to be....

a well written book.