Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction

Excellent book on coping with the effects of relationship loss and the emotional impact it can have, and why it’s happening the way it does. Instrumental in my healing and processing the end of a relationship.

Straightforward help to understand attachment bonds, why they form. The more you dated or lived with an “ex”, the longer the time and work it may take to heal and move along. This is especially true of empaths who tried and cared so much and whose hearts were really broken.The advice and exercises are helpful.

Good advice.

I just finished this wonderful book and wanted to post as soon as I could in case anyone needed some help of “Letting Go of Your Ex”. Oh, how I wish I had access to this book when I was younger! That said, I now have it as a resource to suggest to friends and family who are struggling with this all too common problem. Dr Warren is not only a “board certified clinical psychologist,” but she is a former professor as well. Therefore, she knows how to take the sometimes complex ideas of psychology and fashion them into down-to-earth, straightforward prose. With step-by-step advice in each of its chapters, Dr. Warren provides us with a clear and sensible game plan about how to move forward with our lives at a time when we may temporarily feel upside down and moving at a dizzying speed in all the wrong directions. Dr. Warren is there with us; she knows the challenges of this experience. She has not only helped countless others in the same situation and done the research (just check the reference section!) she has herself taken this journey. I highly recommend your buying this book and reading this book so that you too have the knowledge and skills you need to create a better life for yourself.

I was a bit skeptical of a self help book to help me get over my breakup, but I’m not anymore. The overall insight and science about what’s going on within my brain was helpful to understand why I was having such a hard time moving on.A few aspects really stood out for me. All the exercises and examples were really great. I didn’t think I would be disciplined enough to keep a log but it turns out that was one of the most helpful tools for me. A great distraction from negative feelings or actions I really wanted to do. I also appreciated the forgiveness section. It just made me feel better to go through some of those steps.I highly recommend Dr. Cortney’s book if you are struggling to get over an ex.Easy to understand and gives you the tools to work through it.

As a fellow mental health clinician, I am so excited to find a hands-on book to be able to recommend to clients that are struggling with letting go of past relationships! So often we see clients come into the office due to a relationship issue or breakup and want practical skills or tools to help them not only understand why they feel the way they feel, but to take action in their journey to an overall healthier life. That is exactly what this book does. The author does an amazing job of identifying and normalizing love addiction and how the cycle represents itself with excellent case example. Dr. Cortney Soderlind Warren provides several hands on personal exercises that really provide people with action along with understanding about their triggers, red flag thinking, and patterns of love addiction. She provides an encompassing look at how people develop core beliefs about love and how greatly it impacts their view of intimate relationships. This book is easy to read and relatable on some many levels! Any person would benefit from this book and participating in some of the exercises. I will be recommending this work highly to not only clients, but friends and family.

This book is really helpful - I wish I'd had it throughout my whole dating life, and I recommend it to anyone in that stage of their life and anyone who is uncomfortable in their current relationship. It uses exercises and worksheets, with plenty of examples, mixed with gentle guidance on examining your various thought processes about yourself and your relationships. It's not only a roadmap to getting over your ex, but also helps you understand and improve your decisions about your relationships, and provides a path forward in your life and future relationships. Reading it felt like receiving the value of several therapy sessions, at a fraction of the cost.

The media could not be loaded.  I thought with the number of exes I have I would be able to let go easier….this last one was really difficult and this book came at the just right time. I’m also going to save this book for my daughter for her first breakup. Lots of practical advice. As the saying goes, “sometimes you have to hear something 7 times, 7 different ways. I also follow Dr. Courtney on Ig and she has great tips too 🙌👍 At the core, difficulty letting go is not about the other person, it’s about you. Love to all of you going through heartbreak right now. This book will help.