The Secrets Men Keep: How Men Make Life and Love Tougher Than It Has to Be

This is a great book and a great price

This is an excellent book. However it also makes my heart sink. Its discouraging and disheartening. Yes, women should read this book and then yoibmay end up just getting a dog.

Well written and great information.

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Where was this book 36 years ago when we first got married? :)This is slightly different than most books about men/women/relationship since it is based on a survey (questions and answers are listed in the back of the book) given to Christian and non-Christian men. The author then takes the results of the survey and divides it into several sections. He uses many different resources to back up his opinions and insights as he seeks to help us all understand why men do or don't do what we think they should do, or say or won't say what we want them to say.I highly recommend this book to women who want to understand the men in their lives better and to men who are seeking to understand their own strengths and weaknesses, especially regarding relationships with women.Sometimes it was painful to read the ways I have failed my husband, but if you don't know what the problem is, it's really hard to fix it. I also think the book explains things in such a way that it makes it easier for us (my husband and me) to talk about the differences together, without it coming across in an accusatory way.This book has been a real eye-opener to me (and I had already reads LOTS of books about male/female relationship). Highly recommed it for the insight and practial ways to apply what was learned.

As a man, this book really hits home because it talks about all of the "secrets" men keep inside, too afraid to let out because they think they're the only ones who feel this way. For a woman, this will help you better understand your man so that more open communication can be had.

This is a great book for all men and yes, women.There are 5 chapters in sections. Section 1 Secrets about Finances, Fame, and Family; Section 2 Secrets about Feelings; 3. Secrets about Spirituality; 4. Secrets about Relationships with Women; and 5.Secrets about sexuality. These are the 5 chapters.A great book for pastors to read, for sermons, and one for small group studies.Read, analyze and change. Men a great book.

In The Secrets that Men Keep, Stephen Arterburn asks a group of men a series of questions in the form of a survey which he then editorializes on from chapter to chapter. Topics include finances, fame, family, feelings, spirituality, relationships, and sexuality.One problem with the book is that many of the questions seem to be relatively arbitrary, or no-brainers at best. Although I am not an expert, I wonder about the accuracy of the survey and the manner in which it was conducted (sampling size, biased wording of the questions, etc.). Treatment of any given subject is somewhat superficial. Some of the topics seem to be common knowledge rather than "secrets". And research into various topics in several instances apparently went no farther than a quick "Google" of a few key words.If you can take these possible weaknesses into account and not expect deep, overly profound answers to the issues discussed in each chapter, then you may find this book to be an enjoyable read covering a wide range of topics. Chapters are short and concise. Each chapter will allow you to briefly reflect on a different area of your life. I was glad I read this book alongside some of the heavier material I was reading at the same time.

Our christian church is using this book as the guideline for a bi-weekly men's encouragement group. The book is good at identifying areas that men may be struggling with, though (and it is self-confessed this way), it does not directly reference the Bible in the sections that discuss resolving the issues. Additionally, our own group took the survey (we had 25 responses), and found that we were pretty consistently shifted towards the 'never' side of the scale, except on about 2 of the questions. But, a good read, and some good insights, and a worthwhile read.

I'm a Stephen Arterburn fan having read a few other books he wrote. I bought this along with some other books because I needed to understand men's emotions, thinking and motivations a bit more.I found this book to be very candid and unlike some books that make you stereotype, it just gave me objectivity and empathy. It helped me reflect on practical steps for handling situations. I've read it cover to cover and also read particular sections from time to time as needed.