Red Flags: Frenemies, Underminers, and Ruthless People

A great book for those who have been pampered, helicopter parented, or just lacking in life experience. I don't date without being upfront with the person about my red flags and compare them to hers. A good icebreaker in itself.

Red Flags is a fascinating book on many levels. Wendy Patrick, herself, is an amazing person. Not only was she named 2014 Public Lawyer of the Year by the California State Bar, she is a business ethics professor and a rock violinist. She brings all of her years of experience onto the page and takes us deep into workings of the criminal justice system and into the minds of some of the worst of society.Ms. Patrick is an engaging and accomplished writer. Her book is fast-paced, clear, and well-organized, but with a light tone, considering some of the subjects she describes. It has the readability of a memoir while giving the reader practical advice.Red Flags works on two levels: she gives us a fascinating peek into the darkness of her professional world, and then shows us how to apply what she knows to better understand the people in our own lives. Thankfully, most of us don’t run into the people Wendy sees, so learning from her experience is a real and uncommon opportunity. We want to know what she knows. What is she looking at when she sees a potential juror or defendant? What does she see when she meets someone new? What unspoken signals are WE communicating?I highly recommend this book for anyone who has an interest in learning how to assess and understand others—which means everyone!

...for all! I wish this wonderful book had been available to me earlier in my life--there's no doubt in my mind that it would have saved me from kissing a few frogs! Dr. Wendy puts complex psychological concepts into plain, simple language and tells us what we all need to know to help us recognize and protect ourselves from those who might do us harm, as well as be able to identify those who would further enhance our lives. Her helpful mnemonic (FLAG) makes it easy for us to remember how to apply the wealth of information that she has acquired throughout her career and life and so graciously and generously shares with us now. Thank you, Dr. Wendy, I look forward to your next great read!

This book was fairly interesting. Read it because a friend of mine was raving on it; how it made her really stop and evaluate the behavior of others.

This book about how to spot people who might not have your best interests at heart, is primarily a telling of the author's personal experiences. There are some helpful tips about spotting the bad guys but too much of the same info and too subjective to be really useful. Yes, using personal examples is great, but not to the exclusion of more succinct tips. The author is or was an attorney with court experience but there was far too much relating to that alone and not enough about what to watch out for and how to spot it.