Breaking the Cycle of Abuse: How to Move Beyond Your Past to Create an Abuse-Free Future

Unfortunately, the abusers are so busy with denial they won't even consider reading this book.It is a good book for our older children. They will most likely become either an abuser or a target of abuse. That's the way this insidious problem works. After reading this book which I thought was very good, I passed it along to my daughter. Hopefully when she's finished, my second daughter will read it... then (with a prayer) my son may read it also. They are all young adults.If any one thing about abuse can devastate a woman beyond all others, it is the fact that her children are likely to follow the pattern of one or both parents, or vacillate between the two. Perhaps if they are aware of it, they may stop the denial long enough to see and understand the hell their abusive parent has brought upon the whole family -- and break the cycle of abuse. It's not a "daddy bashing" book and it is for adults. But maybe, just maybe it will help everyone be aware that they must set and enforce boundaries and respect other people's boundaries.

I’ll admit besides the Bible this is by far the best book I ever read in my life! Growing up in Miami in a dark world of abuse from family and street life! Also abuse from dating the wrong women and picking wrong friends! This book is changing my Life! If you have a Big Loving heart this book is for you!With Love Thanks to the lady who wrote this book!King Aser

This is a good companion book after reading "Toxic Parents" and "Mothers Who Can't Love" both by Dr. Susan Forward first. The reason why I am recommending these books first is because Dr. Forward's books are more IMHO compassionate. They help you acknowledge the abuse, get out of denial, and teach you how to deal with the rightful anger, pain and grief that occurred due to childhood abuse etc. Once you've done these things, then you are ready for the next step which is this book. This is more advanced whereas "Toxic Parents" and "Mothers Who Can't Love"are for building the foundation desperately needed in the first place and to break the ice and to begin breaking the chains of abuse and to break the cycle of abuse.

After a bad relationship in my past I had trouble moving forward. After picking up this book. This is very important to learn and understand your emotions and not continue the abusive cycle. (My advice to anybody who's going through tough time, definitely read this book and seek into therapy to move forward, so you can be a better person. You are not a relection of your demon. You grow like a phoenix.)

I found this book in the relationships section of my college's library and checked it out. Loved it so much that I ended up buying my own copy. I love that it walks you through the process of healing. Beverly isn't just talking at her readers, she's showing us how to do the work. I reviewed this book on my channel, The Reader's Revue. I'm hoping that this book will encourage my subscribers just as it encouraged me!

This book is an excellent resource for anyone who is struggling with a legacy of childhood abuse. It provides useful, step-by-step advice on identifying abuse and changing in-grained behaviors. It is also useful in conjunction with therpay to help focus sessions and provide a framework to follow in order to make progress between sessions.

This book was so amazing! It broke things out in a way I'd never thought of and really had you work through things with great exercises. I've recommended it to at least 3 people and bought it for one person. I'll read it again!

This book is very good , talks about how abusive starts and gives you homework to do in the book about finding what traumatized you as a child initially and how to get over it.

Really good book, would recommend!

In this clearly written, empathetic self-help book, Engel aims to stop the cycle of abuse by questioning the past truthfully, to identify and manage emotions, and to recognise the characteristics of abusive relationships. An experienced psychotherapist; also an abuse survivor herself is gentle and more understanding. It could be looked on as very CBT like in strategy there is a series of homework exercices aiming at self-discovery: answering simple questions, writing down their memories, tracing family patterns, etc.

Eye-opening book. Highly recommend it.

I enjoyed reading the book and it has made me understand a lot of things I didn't know about myself.So thank you very much Beverly Engel

Books make it seem easy , not sure they take full consideration of a persons emotion and emotional desire and outcome a person would wish for. Again I have not completed this book and am not sure that I agree with the author that people who are abuse have been victims of abuse when younger. Interesting reading from what I have read. As with another book I will get back to it when I have time.